A common misconception is that our bodies will adequately lubricate naturally if only we are turned on enough, but the reality is that not everyone can get as wet as they would like to, and this doesn't make them or their partner/s a sexual failure!
There are plenty of reasons why someone might not produce natural vaginal lubrication, including:
And of course, there are heaps of other causes of low lubrication: tiredness, stress, pregnancy, cancer, menopause, medication use, recreational drug use, depression, you name it!
It also bares repeating that aside from the vagina, some areas of the body that you might want to fuck are not naturally lubricating and will always require a little something extra for safer sex and to avoid chafing, friction burns or condom/dam/glove breakage. This includes anal sex, tit-fucking and foot-fucking.
One of the most sex-positive things we can do is stop thinking about sex in such homogeneous and prescriptive ways. This idea that there is a normal, standard level of lubrication a human body should be able to produce can be damaging, especially as we live in a world that is already bursting at the seams with mistruths and misunderstandings of sexuality and 'normal' sexual response.
People, and especially girls and women, take on these messages about not needing extra lube because their bodies will lubricate naturally, and when that doesn't happen, they suffer through painful, dry sex and often blame themselves. Telling people that ‘not enough foreplay’ is the issue also suggests that lengthy foreplay is required for every sexual encounter, which isn't true at all, as many a fan of the quickie will tell you! Telling people there is something wrong with them when 'enough' foreplay doesn't produce natural lubricant can be shameful and upsetting.
And besides, lubricant is fun, damn it! Slippery, cushioning, silky, long-lasting, wet fun. Check out our range of water-based lubricants and silicone lubricants and as always, feel free to contact us with any questions
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