by Lauren Clair September 16, 2015

A common misconception is that our bodies will adequately lubricate naturally if only we are turned on enough, but the reality is that not everyone can get as wet as they would like to, and this doesn't make them or their partner/s a sexual failure!

There are plenty of reasons why someone might not produce natural vaginal lubrication, including:

    • Prolonged sex: The kind where you are at it for hours, chalking up orgasm after orgasm, or just banging hard and fast and long, and your natural lubrication can only get you so far.
    • Strap-on/Silicone sex: Some people find that foreign materials (including body safe materials like silicone or glass) can be drying or increase unpleasant friction.
    • Smoker sex: Yep, they say that puffing away on fags can dry you up immensely.
    • Condom sex/Safer sex: Once again, introducing a foreign material (even a little latex sheath) can mean your natural lubrication just isn’t up to the task at hand, and importantly, adding extra lube decreases the chances of condom/dam breakage.
    • Menstrual Cycle sex: One of the most common causes of variation in natural vaginal lubrication is our monthly cycle - this can mean an increase in natural lubrication but it can also mean a decrease. 

And of course, there are heaps of other causes of low lubrication: tiredness, stress, pregnancy, cancer, menopause, medication use, recreational drug use, depression, you name it!

It also bares repeating that aside from the vagina, some areas of the body that you might want to fuck are not naturally lubricating and will always require a little something extra for safer sex and to avoid chafing, friction burns or condom/dam/glove breakage. This includes anal sex, tit-fucking and foot-fucking.

One of the most sex-positive things we can do is stop thinking about sex in such homogeneous and prescriptive ways. This idea that there is a normal, standard level of lubrication a human body should be able to produce can be damaging, especially as we live in a world that is already bursting at the seams with mistruths and misunderstandings of sexuality and 'normal' sexual response.

People, and especially girls and women, take on these messages about not needing extra lube because their bodies will lubricate naturally, and when that doesn't happen, they suffer through painful, dry sex and often blame themselves. Telling people that ‘not enough foreplay’ is the issue also suggests that lengthy foreplay is required for every sexual encounter, which isn't true at all, as many a fan of the quickie will tell you! Telling people there is something wrong with them when 'enough' foreplay doesn't produce natural lubricant can be shameful and upsetting. 

And besides, lubricant is fun, damn it! Slippery, cushioning, silky, long-lasting, wet fun. Check out our range of water-based lubricants and silicone lubricants and as always, feel free to contact us with any questions 

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